Betrayal and Forgiveness
What if making peace with your body doesn't mean you have to love everything it's put you through?
Today's episode of The Burn is a bit different. We are sharing the voice and words of Teckla King-O'Connor who passed away from metastatic breast cancer after being diagnosed with de novo MBC at 37 in 2016. Teckla participated in our Evening of Storytelling: Body Stories, reading her essay Betrayal and Forgiveness just days before entering hospice. Today's episode features that recording.
In her essay, Teckla chronicles a lifetime of negotiating with a body that never quite seemed to cooperate. She writes about growing up feeling at odds with her body, the physical changes and losses that came with cancer and its treatments, and the complicated work of living inside a body she couldn't always trust.
"I often wonder if my mind and body have become enemies."
What makes Teckla's essay so powerful is what she refuses to simplify. She doesn't offer us an easy story about body love or acceptance. She gives us the frustration, the resentment, the grief, and the small shifts in perspective that can happen when you look back at everything your body has carried you through.
And then, something unexpected: forgiveness. Not complete. Not uncomplicated. But perhaps enough to offer a little grace.
"I guess, somewhat begrudgingly, it deserves forgiveness."
We are deeply grateful to Teckla for trusting us with her words, for the stories she shared with Wildfire, and for the opportunity to hear her voice.
Teckla passed away shortly after this recording. We are honored to share her words and hear her voice in this episode. Teckla was diagnosed with de novo MBC in 2016 at 37. Teckla lived in Pittsburgh with her husband, Mike, and two cats, Zeus and Rip. They enjoyed traveling and seeing the world together, competing in word games, and finding laughter in everyday life.
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Writing Prompts Inspired by Today’s Episode
Set your timer for eight minutes, write without stopping or editing yourself. There is magic in leaning into that time. The prompt is:
This body has…
This writing prompt was inspired by Teckla’s essay.
What would it mean to write an honest account of your relationship with your body? Not the inspirational version, but the complicated, sometimes frustrating, perhaps even resentful one.
Start with an early memory. What did your body do or fail to do? Write the long, unfiltered history of your relationship with your body: the surprises, the changes, the things you didn't ask for. What has it carried you through? Was there a time when you felt like it let you down or betrayed you? Where do you feel that tension in your body now?
Write to discover your truth. Write to find what's underneath the layer of maybe what you think is true, to find that truer thing.
If you find that you write best with a good prompt, check out our free prompts and learn about our writing workshops.
Happy writing! Until next time, take good care.
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